Internet Dating with Social Network Sites!

Social network sites to me were either for building businesses and associates, or letting the kids share their stuff with their friends! I belonged to a few for business building but out of curiosity I decided to check these things out. I was amazed how many people I knew had pages on these things!

There are so many to chose from, it's hard to keep track, and now I see there is a program for sale to build your own site! Every site I sign up for leads me to another and another. When does it end? It's cool in a dating sense because there are millions of people on them and they are easy to get in touch with. Basically all you have to do is set up a profile, do a search for who or what you are looking for, and send them an invite to be your friend.

These sites encourage people to put their life out there so everyone can see. The variety is so vast, I doubt I will ever come close to ending a search. Just when you think you found someone worth shooting for, another one with slightly different or better qualities shows up. On one of these sites, I have nothing but women for friends! Some of them I know and some of them I just want to get to know. I should start to sell cosmetics of something! I'd make a fortune!

One of the greatest things they have on these sites is a place to leave a comment on someone's profile. Most of them require that you are already a friend of that person, but a few allow all members to leave comments! Not only do you get to flirt with these people, you now have all the people looking at their profile reading what you left behind! Most of these sites allow html content in these comment areas and that just opens the door to all kinds of possibilities!

Then there are the web sites that supply html codes to place on these sites. It's amazing some of the graphics that are available, and if you know anything about code, you can change links and the text that goes with the pictures and have a great time! Just be careful because some of the profiles may be visible to the kids and you don't want to get too crazy, or put something on there that's too obvious and get deleted from the site! Nothing warms the heart of a person looking for love than a sparkling rose and some magic words!

Have fun with these sites and remember, the more you belong to, the better your chances are of finding the right person for you. Some people make a career out of this dating thing. I like to consider myself a life time student, just looking for the right teacher to give the apple to.... and check out this "perfect woman" video!

Making Internet Dating GREAT!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating Scam!!!

I love using chat rooms for personal and business! It's cheap and easy and with some of the new technology, you can do a lot more than just talk. If both parties have the same version, they can eliminate phone bills and even do video cam chatting! Sharing files and pictures is a snap and no more waiting to hear or see the one you want to date!

So where is the problem? Not having the same IM program version seems to be the usual obstacle. All too many times one of the two has an older version and can't upgrade, or is using a different IM program that only allows for limited use. But this isn't the type of problem anybody should be concerned about!

How many times have you found someone you wanted to get to know, had all the right stuff, only to find out they weren't who and where they said they were? Nothing new to most of us experienced internet daters, right? My first experience with this hit me hard. I really thought I found "THE ONE", only to find out after a few weeks of chatting and writing, that she (or he) wasn't everything I thought...

I know I'm not the first or only one ever approached by someone from another country saying there are from your hometwon or somewhere within reason. They are looking for everything you have to offer and promise to give you everything you will ever need. They share life stories, pictures, all their compatable interests, and even say they thank GOD they found you!!! Then comes the PUNCHLINE!

After weeks of falling in love with this chick, convinced that this is real and we are going to live happily ever after... she drops the bomb! It turns out she is currently in Africa, or some other God forsaken country and wants to come home, but can't come up with the money. If you send her the money by way of Western Union, she can be in your arms by the weekend! Funny how she didn't mention this earlier. I thought she was from Milwaukee and living there now!!!

Another version of this is the business proposition where they sell products all over the world but can't accept money from the USA and need you to collect their money and then send it to them. If they can't accept money from the USA, how am I going to get it to them? You guessed it, by Western Union!!! Then collect your money from the customer via Western Union! Leave me out of it!

These men and women prey on lonely people and find that information out on dating sites. When I was laid up after surgery for 4 months, I amused myself by answering IMs and emails from these women just to see how long it would take them to pop the money question. Most of them do it within a day or two, but one lasted two months before I had to beak it to her that I was on to her. How I caught her in the lie you will have to ask me. It's a hole other segment or even a class on scams I could do with the details of that one.

Using IMs and chat rooms is great fun. Just be careful what you say and who you say it to, or in front of, in a chat room. We all want to find a date or a new love, not get taken for everything we have, including our heart.
Next time I want to have some fun with the social network sights! These places are getting real competitive for members.
Making Internet Dating Great!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating using IM and Chat!

Chat rooms and instant messenger are probably the easiest ways to communicate with someone across the street, or on the other side of the world. This opens up a whole lot of options and also leaves you open to some pretty heavy hitters when it comes to scams.

I first started using IMs to chat with people I would meet on other websites. If you do it right, there are many ways to leave clues on your profile that would help someone find you on an IM program somewhere. It's getting tougher to do these days because the screening programs on some of the sites are catching on to all the little tricks. I found the best way to find someone is to hope they use the same screen name on the dating site that they use on say Yahoo or AOL. Then you just do a member search and hope you find the same one.

That doesn't always work. I've found the same names and sent off an IM with the big question, "do you have a profile on..." and hope they reply with a yes. All too many times, I've received the answer "no" or find out that that person uses the same name but is a different sex than what you are hoping for! Some of them take offense to the question and try turning you in for spamming them.

Once you do find the correct person, you can start chatting and maybe get lucky enough to meet. It's just another avenue to take in the big search.

The chat rooms are another story! I used MSN or Yahoo chat for most of the searching I did. I would start by searching for a room that has some space left in it, either in the category of romance or adults, and see who was in there. I sometimes got lucky and found someone who lived not too far away and would start chatting in the room and eventually start a private window chat. I actually found several dates that way and gained some pretty good internet friends that way. There are lots of cam girls on there also and it gets annoying for a while but most of the rooms allow for blocking certain members from your window.

IMs and chat rooms do have a down side to them besides the things I mentioned. In the next segment I want to touch briefly on what I found to be the most frustrating and annoying scams I've found using these means of searching for true love!

Making Internet Dating Great!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating on the "list"!

OK, some of you know there are places on the net to list your ads. One place I have tried, turned out to be a haven for the cam girl ads. You know the ones that have this great profile and make you think you have every chance of meeting them now! I responded to dozens of them thinking this was going to be easy! NOT!!!

If I had a dollar for all the responses I received saying they don't like putting their information in email so you have to go to their profile on such and such web site dot com, I could have paid the premium membership for a year on one of the best dating services around! You get all the automated responses in the world too! Amazing how they are all worded the same with the only difference being the link to the web page! Nice racket if you can get people to fall for it. Somebody has to be making money from that idea!

It's not just the women doing this! There are guys out there too that love playing these games, and some say the guys are better at it than the women are. I decided I was going to just post an ad on there and let the women come to me. Sounds like a good idea! I have a lot to offer the right woman and I'm sure when they read my post, I'll have more than I can handle in responses! After all, there are tons of ladies out there looking for guys like me!

Again, I received the responses alright! Some were real, some were more cam girls responding to guys with the exact same email you get when you write to them, and some of them just someone using the list to respond with their sales pitch for whatever they were selling. I guess no matter where you go, online or off, you will find a lot of the same things.

I actually did find a few new friends on the "list", and I had two dates from there. Nothing serious but out of all the work it took, I guess I preferred the cheap to free dating sites over this option!

Next time, lets look over the exciting and dangerous world of Instant Messengers! Yes, believe it or not, people like to use them and chat rooms to find true love!

Making Internet Dating Great!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating using Classified ads!

Remember the good old days when we used to have to put a personals ad in the paper? If you do, then you are definitely dating yourself, and probably ended up doing just that, dating yourself! I can't count how many times I tried that, made a connection, and waited for nobody to show up!

The thing I hated the most, aside from the cost, was the abbreviations used in those ads! You have to have a PHD to read and understand what half of them mean! Then when you get there to meet that special someone, you find out that TV wasn't something they liked to watch! It was the five o'clock shadow that gave that away!

The lack of pictures was another drawback to those ads. Sure, there were some papers that offered the opportunity to post a picture, but there again you still don't know how long ago those pictures were taken, of it is really of the person you want to meet.

One of the ads I read and responded to listed all the qualities I was looking for in a woman. I even got to talk to her on the phone before the date! The only thing missing was a good description of what she looked like, so I asked her before we set up the meet. I almost died when she said "I'm 5 feet tall, 400 pounds, no teeth, and my boobs hang down below my waist." I didn't know if I should laugh or hang up the phone!

Have any great tails to tell? I'm sure we'd all love to hear yours! Next I want to look at a certain somebody's list that sounds like it would be a great place to find a date, but is it?

Making Internet Dating Great!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet dating on free sites!

I've probably had more fun looking for a date on the free sites! Not only is it free, you get to meet some of the craziest people there. Everyone usually joins the free sites, even if they aren't really looking for a date. It makes it harder to find a serious person there, but it increases the fun during the search. Just don't be too serious about finding true love there! It could still happen but the process takes longer and there aren't that many options with the free sites.

I actually had more face to face meetings with people I met on the free sites! None of them worked out and I only met with each prospect once, but it makes you think and refine what you are looking for when you have those experiences. One of the dates I had was with a woman who seemed so quiet and reserved online but when we got together for dinner, I don't think I talked for more than five minutes the whole time. Another date went really well but after it was over, that was the last time we ever talked. I'd like to think she just wasn't really ready to get back into dating! (couldn't have been anything I said, right?)

If you want to know what these sites are, just do a search nd I'm sure you'll find more than I have ever used. Most of the time I get referred to them by someone on another site because they use them too. I know about a dozen different women on just as many sites, and the funny part is looking at their profiles and finding some of them different and looking for different things! Can we say SYBIL??? All part of the fun of internet Dating!

Next I'll dive into the Classifieds and some of the fun I've had there. It just keeps getting better!

Making Internet Dating GREAT!!!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet dating on pay sites

Internet dating can be very complicated, especially when you are looking for a real person with real values, not to mention real good looks! Those qualifications right there should tell you not to use the internet, but to sign up with a local matching service. Chances of finding the right person online with all the qualifications you want can be almost impossible.

Some of the pay sites online that require you to pay upfront are extentions of the local services you can find in some of the larger cities. The reason they want you to join and pay a fee is because they use technology to match you with the real match, not just connect you with a list of people who have some of the qualities you are searching for. If you have to money and want to find the person of your dreams, this is the route to go. It does get long and tedious, process wise, but well worth the time, effort, and money when you want real results.

If you aren't in that big of a hurry, some of the free sites offer an upgraded option that will cost you a monthly fee. You get some perks using the upgraded membership, like advanced searches with more detail you can enter to find the one you'll love forever! Other perks include putting your profile or ad on top of the free ones for more exposure, freedom to contact anyone that becomes a member, and sometimes a chat room you can access that the non paying members can't access.

My suggestion for these kind of sites is to join as a free member and see what they have to offer. f you like what you see and can find any interesting prospect, you may want to upgrade and take advantage of the perks!

Next segment I'll explore some of the pros and cons of the other types of dating sites I've been to and maybe even have a tail or two I'll share.

Making Internet Dating Great!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating - Places to go...

People to meet! Yes, I know, that's the idea right? Well sometimes you have to watch what you wish for.

It use to be that the best place to meet someone was the local bar or grocery store! Remember some of the old TV shows and comedians with the tactics they used to meet people. I think Mr. Wiffle had the best idea of all, watching the ladies squeeze the charmens! You could practically read that guy's mind with the look on his face as he squeezed the soft little package!

Bars and clubs are ok and probably still a good place to find a date, but it's just as risky as internet dating to some extent. Sure, you get to see the "real person" sitting on the stool or chair across the room through all the smoke and noise. And they all look like a 10 from that distance, but what do you see when you get closer or start talking to them? Yep, pretty much the same thing you find on the internet...

Today, it's social networking and dating sites. Which one is best? Depends on what you are looking for and how much you want to spend! For what I've gotten from both the free and the pay sites, I found the most amusing people are on the free sites, but there are just as many interesting people on the pay sites!

In the next entry I'll go into a few of the sites I've been to and what I got from them. Are you ready with your note pad, pens and credit cards? LOL Fasten your seat belts too, this ride is going to get good and bumpy!

Making Internet Dating Great!

Louis
LNE Health & Wealth

Internet Dating - In Search Of!

OK, you're a single person now, for whatever reason, and you are tired of being alone. It's easy enough to figure that part out, but what exactly are you looking for? That question is going to pop up with just about every response you get while searching for someone special to spend time with. So it's your job to figure that out before you start your search.

Most people are looking for the same things when it comes to looking for a companion to walk through life with. Someone honest, trustworthy, affectionate, open minded... you know the list. Is that what you are looking for? It's important to make those issues clear either in your posting or on your profile. It saves a lot of time and weeds out the ones who read your ad and are not looking for a person like you.

It's sometimes good to list the things you don't like or don't want. Some people just want a fishing or golfing buddy and not a serious relationship. Others hate golf or football. Nobody knows that if you don't tell them.

Once you have all that figured out, put it down somewhere, like in a text file, so it's easy to refer back to or even copy and paste into future postings. While you're at it, you might want to look for a picture you don't mind sharing at some point with a prospective catch! I wouldn't start out with a nude or a too provocative picture unless you are really hot for a date and not too picky who it's with!

Next time I want to start looking at some of the options we all have for listing our desires and searches. There are way too many to list, but I'd like to share some of the best ones I've used and give you some of my results. Do your homework and get ready to start posting!

Thanks again for stopping! Subscribe to this blog so you don't miss anything! And don't give up the search! The one who loves you is just a click or ten away! LOL

Making Internet Dating GREAT!

Louie
LNE Health & Wealth

P.S. As a bonus for today, I wanted to share this hilarious video with you! Enjoy!

Internet Dating 2008 - The journey begins!

Welcome to my adventure! I hope you find enough familiar information here to relate to and get you interested, and enough new information to keep you coming back! I've been at this "game" for a few years now and thought it would be fun to share some of my experiences, both good and bad, with others and maybe learn some new things along the way. Let's begin, shall we?

I started my first internet searching for a "date" about ten years ago. I wasn't looking for myself, but helping my sister in law try to find a man worthy of her charms! She had enough with the man she was hoping to marry and wanted to "test the waters" to see if there was anyone she would rather be involved with. Was she ever in for a surprise!

The first thing I found interesting in Internet Dating is the ratio of men to women when it comes to who is looking for a date! The first day she placed an ad online, she received over 100 responses! It was like she was giving away money! Needless to say, she was overwhelmed! It took her two hours on MY computer to just look at some of the emails, and after all that, she responded to two men... When I started looking for myself, I bet it was a week before I received ONE response! What does that tell you? I know I'm not one of those male models with the six pack abs, but somebody out there must be looking for a guy with all my fantastic personality traits!

Well, my sister in law married the guy she was already dating at the time she started her search, and broke the hearts of dozens of men she eventually got to know online. Me? I eventually started getting responses to my ads but no all of them were GREAT CATCHES! (unless you have very strange tastes!) More on those coming soon!

Thanks for reading and come back again for some more tales of my Internet Dating Travels!

Making Internet Dating GREAT!

Louie
LNE Health & Wealth